My beautiful daughter is 12 years old and 5'7". She's basically a little girl in a woman's body. Here she is in with me last month: (click the pic to get a good look)
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Anyway. So she gets her frozen yogurt and fills it to the TOP. Then adds toppings! The boys ended up filling theirs half full and adding toppings. I was sure that hers probably outweighed both of theirs combined and I thought it would be funny to call her out. Sure enough...hers did out weigh both of theirs!
So we sit down and I start singing a funny (to me) song about getting diabetes, meanwhile Kathy starts telling her that the amount of yogurt she has is ridiculous and way too much.
We get home later and I can see something is wrong. Soon enough it comes out that Lauren feels bad about herself because of us teasing and talking to her about going overboard on dessert. There is talk of someone in 4th grade (3 yrs ago) saying her thighs were fat?? And just craaaazy tears from her about feeling ashamed and not good enough.
WHAT THE HELL? My kid? Really? My beautiful, confident, kid who EVERYONE loves and says is just so wonderful and great? My kid who is super thoughtful, mature, etc....? My kid has these issues???
It was a reminder that we all do. We ALL struggle with feelings that tell us at times we aren't good enough, that we are disappointing people, etc...
It was a reminder that my jokes (while funny to me) can push the raw spot inside of a person close to me. While my message of concern can sometimes come through as condemnation if I'm not careful to be sensitive to the wounds that are there.
It turned out to be a blessing. It allowed me to see that even the most beautiful, confident, together ones in your life still need your reassurance and your sensitivity. Until the next crisis....!
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